Helping kids cope with dating after divorce
You can help your kids let go of this misconception.
Children have a remarkable ability to heal when given the support and love they need.
“If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart.
I’ll stay there forever.” -Winnie the Pooh Children of divorcing (and divorced) parents must learn to cope with separations from people they love more quickly than children from intact families.
Kids feel safer and more secure when they know what to expect next.
Knowing that, even when they switch homes, dinnertime is followed by a bath and then homework, for example, can set a child’s mind at ease.
Your words, actions, and ability to remain consistent are all important tools to reassure your children of your unchanging love.
Resist the temptation to spoil kids during a divorce by not enforcing limits or allowing them to break rules.The bottom line: kids need to know that your divorce isn’t their fault.Many kids believe that they had something to do with the divorce, recalling times they argued with their parents, received poor grades, or got in trouble.When these feelings break through, savvy parents can help the child by following these simple steps: Developing emotional attachments and coping with separations from people we love are the foundations of healthy relationships at every stage in life. “When All Else Fails: Minimiziing the Damage Before, During, and After Divorce” (Paradox Press, 2013) is his latest book and is intended to provide tips and tools to people confronting the challenges of divorce.Few lessons that parents teach their children have more lasting value. Kevin received his Ph D in psychology from UT Southwestern in Dallas in 1983 and his JD from SMU’s Dedman School of Law in 1984.